{"id":174,"date":"2012-02-05T14:13:00","date_gmt":"2012-02-05T20:13:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/2012\/02\/05\/separation\/"},"modified":"2014-11-25T10:23:31","modified_gmt":"2014-11-25T16:23:31","slug":"separation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/2012\/02\/05\/separation\/","title":{"rendered":"Separation"},"content":{"rendered":"<div dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">As I start this blog, I contemplate the loss our family is going through now. &nbsp;We are a split family for the time being. &nbsp;My kids and I are living on campus at Wartburg Seminary, while my wife and the kids mother, continues to live in Illinois. &nbsp;We are not&nbsp;separated but there is a great deal of&nbsp;separation&nbsp;in the family. &nbsp;In order to maintain health insurance, my wife has stayed working at her place of employment in Illinois, while living with her brother. &nbsp;She has been unable to find a job in Dubuque that will supply the health care insurance and make a reasonable salary. &nbsp;So as I deal with long periods of not seeing and because of school, long periods of not talking to my wife, the kids do the same. &nbsp;It has been hard on each of us in our own ways. &nbsp;<\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">There has also been some positives to this as well. &nbsp;The kids and I have much more time with each other and all of us are learning to split up the&nbsp;responsibilities&nbsp;of running the household. &nbsp;I very much miss her and so do the kids. &nbsp;At times you can see the tension but we all are looking forward to the day she either gets a job out here or comes here in June. &nbsp;<\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As I start this blog, I contemplate the loss our family is going through now. &nbsp;We are a split family for the time being. &nbsp;My kids and I are living on campus at Wartburg Seminary, while my wife and the kids mother, continues to live in Illinois. &nbsp;We are not&nbsp;separated but there is a great &#8230; 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