{"id":182,"date":"2012-02-09T20:27:00","date_gmt":"2012-02-10T02:27:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/2012\/02\/09\/you-must-show-griefloss-in-the-proper-way\/"},"modified":"2014-11-25T10:23:31","modified_gmt":"2014-11-25T16:23:31","slug":"you-must-show-griefloss-in-the-proper-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/2012\/02\/09\/you-must-show-griefloss-in-the-proper-way\/","title":{"rendered":"You must show grief\/loss in the proper way!"},"content":{"rendered":"
First, no no no and no, I do not believe what I am saying in the title.  There may be some more appropriate ways than others but we all grieve in our own ways.  However I was really taken aback when I saw an article at Yahoo Sports today.  We have a football player, criticizing a player from the Patriots, who if you did not know lost the Super Bowl.  The player is not being criticized for losing but  for not grieving properly.  It is just so ridiculous that someone should tell another person that they need to show the loss and not be over it so quickly and NOT to have a good time following the Super Bowl.  So, let me get this straight, if someone prepares for a possible loss, be it a game, a person or maybe property and following the loss they do not show the grief as maybe you would, then they are wrong!  Here is the article I am referring to:  Rodney Harrison about Rob Gronkowski.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Now, I have to ask….Who is immature? Who should feel stupid? Who needs to grow up? Who has made the mistake here?  I guess it is better to take this loss and become devastated over the loss and let it rule your emotions and fester inside of you.<\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

First, no no no and no, I do not believe what I am saying in the title.  There may be some more appropriate ways than others but we all grieve in our own ways.  However I was really taken aback when I saw an article at Yahoo Sports today.  We have a football player, criticizing a player from the … [Read more…]<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[12,1],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"entry","1":"post","2":"publish","3":"author-admin","4":"post-182","6":"format-standard","7":"category-lossandgrief","8":"category-uncategorized"},"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2m6h5-2W","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":183,"url":"https:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/2012\/02\/15\/obsessed-with-celebrity-loss\/","url_meta":{"origin":182,"position":0},"title":"Obsessed with celebrity loss","author":"Douglas Dill","date":"February 15, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"Twenty four seven coverage\u00a0every time\u00a0a\u00a0celebrity\u00a0dies is just so amazing. \u00a0What is it that attracts us to other peoples experience in loss? \u00a0What about sharing in their grief? \u00a0As I been watching and for the most part, unwillingly watch the drama of the Whitney Huston coverage, I began to ponder what\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Loss and Grief"","block_context":{"text":"Loss and Grief","link":"https:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/category\/lossandgrief\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":178,"url":"https:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/2012\/02\/06\/superbowl-win-loss\/","url_meta":{"origin":182,"position":1},"title":"Superbowl Win….Loss","author":"Douglas Dill","date":"February 6, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"Every year someone wins and someone looses. \u00a0Some people make money, some loose. \u00a0People get carried away with their\u00a0celebration\u00a0and other carried away with the grief over the loss. \u00a0Check out this article about those that were unhappy after the loss. \u00a0Their grief turned into anger and then arrest by the\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Loss and Grief"","block_context":{"text":"Loss and Grief","link":"https:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/category\/lossandgrief\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/a57.foxnews.com\/static\/managed\/img\/Sports\/396\/223\/Super20128.jpg?resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":194,"url":"https:\/\/www.messy-spirituality.com\/wordpress\/2012\/05\/01\/final-loss\/","url_meta":{"origin":182,"position":2},"title":"Final loss","author":"Douglas Dill","date":"May 1, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"(This post has been imported from my blogspot account. \u00a0If you are seeing this, do not fret....My posts will continue still on this site.) 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